Happiness....it's a choice and a conscious decision. How many times have we heard people say that they want to break up with their significant other or spouse because 'they don't make me happy anymore'? In a former life, I would empathize with the person or pray that the other person would realize the err of their ways and make my friend happy. Now, I really want to violently shake them and slap them into reality. We are responsible for our own happiness! It's as simple as that! As adults, we make choices-some we regret, some we survive and some we thrive from. Regardless, they are our choices.
“It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.” – Dale Carnegie
Day by day, and sometimes minute by minute, I make a decision to be happy. I do my best to compartmentalize issues and realize that what happened at work does not have to interfere with my home life. My kids, friends, and loved ones should not have to pay for what happened at work or on the way home. One idiotic driver should not be the reason that everyone on the road has to deal with my road rage.
Just because I try my best to live a happy life, doesn't mean that I don't go through darkness. Sometimes I think that people who try to live happy may go through more things that people who don't. That still doesn't negate the fact that my happiness is mine--my choice, my decision. The Bible tells us in ALL things give thanks. WOW! That has proven to be a tough one! But I try. I don't always succeed-but I try. I'm at a point now that no matter what's going on, I want my response to be positive. That doesn't mean that I don't grieve, get mad, yell, scream or have break downs--that means that in the end-I trust that my outcome is going to be in the positive for me.
“If you think sunshine brings you happiness, then you haven’t danced in the rain.” – Unknown
I think of it like this: If my happiness isn't dependedent on something or someone, then when that something or someone is gone, I still have my happiness!
I choose happiness......
